Living Fe from an Fi perspective

Fe is succinct. And spells words correctly.

Having an Fe mask is energy conserving.

NeFi never stops adapting to the "other". Everything we feel, we project externally. We hide nothing. However that constant metamorphosis requires significant energy. I don't "see" the other because I "feel" the other. It is exhausting and painful sometimes.

How to describe Fi... Fi is mistlike. It engorphs the other, captures all of their minutia, internalizes them, seeps into all of their nooks and crannies, caresses them, not with the eyes or the hands. With the soul. Fi feels magical. It is boundless. When people talk about an aura, they are talking about Fi. NeFi seeks to become one with the" other" and loose itself it the patterns of the "other". Like drowning in an ocean

From the Fi perspective, using Fe is is fascinating. A new perspective. Please note my below description may be flawed as I "cheat" to taste Fe.

(NeTe is also watching, observing, catagorizing, but quietly, under the radar, as to not quench Fe. It finds Fe daintiness hysterical. NeTe is laughing its metaphorical ass off.)

Fe, when in full bloom, is beautiful waves that gently collide. It plays without words. I don't have to say what I mean as the other Fe user already knows. Unspoken conversations with the eyes.

To share unpleasantness, the voice volume drops, becomes softer, the eyes and face silently convey a problem. The face angles to the right. Fe wants to know about your family. Your thoughts. Your problems. Can it help you, feed you, exhibit benevolence towards you?

However-Fe feels "for you". It doesn't "feel you" like fi does. Thus Fe is not inherently painful.

I cannot emphasize how wonderful this is. To carefor you, but to not suffer for you. Fe actually supresses and quenches Fi. This is delight.

The weirder aspects?

Fe is dainty, nesty, a bit prissy. Things must be a certain way. Fastidiously clean and neat (and since you are conserving energy by not emo groping others with Fi, you actually have energy to clean.). Fe likes nice things. Fe notices tiny details indicative of quality. Fe is a maybe a little snobby.

Fe is a mute button. Fe in full bloom introduces gaps in speech, pauses. Thoughts. must be phrased. In the proper. Sense. Using the right word matters. Fe serves as a translational filter to rework the message to generate the correct contextual message. Fe says I should not post this. It finds it both rude and too honest, far too open. It says too much, and pulls too much attention from the societal conversation, of which it should only be a small piece.

Fe loves formality, civility, ceremony. Every gesture, hand movement, blink, every modification of the mask is a symbol, a sign, important to be correctly performed. Details, delicacy matter. Read CJ Cherryh. She creates entire Fe societies in some stories.

Unpleasant?

Fe finds loud, direct behavior to be uncouth, rude, disruptive, unsettling. Even simple direct statements seem too blunt, too course, thus unsophisticated, even somewhat offensive. Always soften messages...

Fe comes with exclusivity. It reads the faces of Te and Fi users and finds them too open, too childlike, too niave. There is a dance going on around them, amongst them, that they do not perceive. They keep missing steps.... As I said, a bit snobby...

God? Can I play?

I have considered believing in god. Not because I need a god but instead because it is a save place to direct love. You cant o wrong loving an amorphous, non existant entity. It wont leave dirty shoes on the floor or take up living space or food. It also is responsible for its own bills. The downside would include a lack of snuggletime, sex and spooning, however unlimited love may make up for that....

I dunno, maybe I just need another dog.

Written stutter?

My friend, 9/9 the ENTP, is starting to encounter issues. He does not respond to any emails from anyone except executives. He will be unemployed soon.

I cannot change him, however he is a very interesting person puzzle to observe and try and understand. He is very strange compared to normal ENTPs, however I propose the roots of 9/9 may be found in normal functions overused.

So-a hypothesis:

Fe is like a mute button-a filter. When I use Fe it makes me dainty, fastidious, reserved in speech and gesture. I hate to “waste words”. It takes a lot of time to write things.

9/9 self described as Ne, Fe, Ti with a splash of Se when presented with the list of functions. When 9/9 does reply to emails, it is one word or one sentence responses. His mannerisms in person are very refined, his tastes very cultured and specific, dainty.

Assuming 9/9 overuses Fe drastically, could this same “muting” effect I observe in small amounts, as I play, be overwhelming to him?

He receives 75 emails a day. If Fe forces the response to be poised and perfect for each response, it becomes impossible to reply.

Thus almost a learning disability/cognitive translation issue-like dysgraphia-except Fe imposed in the opposite direction? Like written stuttering.

Also-more oddly-Fe imposes social distance. Not only is it difficult to reply, it might feel wasteful to spend the precious, extreme efforts required in replying on those who are unworthy of a response. “I like you, however I am really to busy to spend a lot of time on an email response to you right now.”

Fe/Fi and basal cortisol levels

Today I stood in La Jolla and let the ocean wash over my legs. The ocean is the most beautiful thing ever.

Now I have sand all in my feet and my pants are wet, but meh, I dont think anybody notices.

Much better today than the past few days.

Fe is like swimming in a calm bath of honey. Fi is like a cutting pain internally or a beautiful mist that washes up and out.

Fe suppresses Fi. This suprised me. Fe also suppresses inflammation internally. My body stops aching. I suspect that basal cortisol levels are to blame.

However I am too Fe happy now to write this up.

I am a barbie doll with a plastic face